Founder's Blog Frank Seifert shares his thoughts, experiences and insights about relationships. Our focus is energetic connections. If you are looking for true joy and happiness you may have to examine old paradigms.
Do you know what makes many relationships so bumpy? It's the surprises.... lots of surprises. That's why we’re caught so flat-footed when the challenges show up.... because they're such a total surprise.
Tim Butler, Lakewood, Colorado, August 31, 2011 at 9:28 PM
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Birthday: 5/11/53, Male, False attractions.
It seems as though whenever I meet someone interesting and run a compatibility report I keep getting numbers in the high single digits. My marriage of 23 years showed compatibility rating numbers of a whopping 6%. Since your system is based on numerology, biorhythms and as the elves say in the Keebler commercials, "a touch of magic," is there a way to determine the most productive age range of individual I should be searching for in dating sites in order to increase the probability of meeting compatible matches. It would seem logical that your system if plotted on a daily basis would result a graph having peaks within a specific age range.
Larry Michel, ., CA, United States, August 31, 2011 at 10:50 PM
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Hello Tim,
Thank you for your question. First, our system is actually not based on Numerology, biorhythms, astrology or a touch of magic, although many like to think of it as magical because of how much it enlightens the users.
Now to you... with False Attractions, if you have been following your chemistry that would explain the single digits...great chemistry but statistically a train wreck in the future, or at least the need to be very aware and acknowledging of each others differences.
There is not a most productive age range. And age is a very interesting topic because most men and women have massive stories and judgments wrapped around age disparities. When there is a great energetic match we have seen that age differences become far less of any issue. The issue is when wanting to create a family or physical activities. The rest is all up to opinions which more often than not end up being false indicators.
Best advice I can give you.... Tune in deeply to who and what (thats the energetic part) you are. Get really loving with yourself (not overly narcissistic... more unconditional) and then be surprised to see how many wonderful women start showing up.
Laurie, Indiana, August 5, 2009 at 5:16 PM
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Birthday 12/19/67. Female. True attractions.
I have an Emotional talking style with perfectionist modifier. If I am to choose someone older or younger than myself so as not to have emotional disconnect, how do I know what age groups to begin looking at for a romantic partner?
Response:
Thank you for your question. First and foremost, you should be looking for a partner that shares the same lifestyle traits as your own. We have found that age makes little difference when these alignments exist. With the Perfectionists Modifier you'll naturally gravitate and connect with older or younger men. Ask yourself what age group you've found most enjoyable to be with. Start there. Bottom line, be flexible and at the very least find a man that shares the same Communication Style and Sexual Response Type. Personally, I would want all four lifestyle traits aligned.
Cindy Lewis, Austin, TX, May 15, 2008 at 12:27 PM
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Hi Frank, I have now run a couple relationship reports and I have false attractions. Both times then men were different than me. My current relationship is one of those men. I really love him but we certainly have our moments talking when we just don't mesh with each other. Sometimes I feel almost smothered and drained. Is there a solution. We have so many things in common.
Reply from Frank:
What you have described is quite common, Cindy...... especially for people with false attractions. Remember, all attractions feel good. The issue is whether or not what we’re feeling is good guidance for selecting the right person to be with (True Attractions) or if what we’re feeling consistently leads us to failed relationships (False Attractions).
I also have false attractions so I can relate to the issue. Following an attraction feels so good. After a period of time, however, we have the juice from the attraction continuing to drive us forward with hope and expectation while we’re experiencing a steady deterioration in the relationship. It's like driving a car while looking in the rearview mirror. We're trying to drive forward while looking in the mirror to recover all the great feelings that we see back there. After successive crashes we know it doesn't work.
The quality of your attractions sets you up for some big challenges. Your style of communication is the most important trait. You should insist on being with someone with whom you share that trait. To have that, you must consciously choose to not follow your. Know your alignments on the front end to avoid what you are currently experiencing and to know the long-term potential of your new relationship.
The short answer to your question is, DON'T follow your attractions. Find someone with the same communication style as yours and start discovering the benefits.
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