Awareness of Our Communication Styles is Essential
Good communication is the foundation for long-term successful relationships. Verbal communication as reflected in the two talking styles is an important tool for people to get to know each other, to feel a connection of friendship or intimacy and is highly desirable for working out problems and misunderstandings. The Communication Lifestyle Trait describes how a person uses words to express themselves. There are two styles of communication, Figurative talking style and Structural talking style.
As a Figurative Talking Style Person your main mode of communication is to emote. The words you use are not nearly as important as the expression that you put into your communication. In fact, you are not very concerned about words at all, unless you’re writing a document or working on something that requires specificity with words. Otherwise you just let loose and express yourself. That expression and release of emotional states is through a steady and often uncontained stream of consciousness.
The Figurative Talking Style determines how you connect with another person in a close relationship. If you are with someone with a Structural Talking style, there can be challenges ranging from misunderstandings to severe losses of energy, even when you are well rested. If you are mismatched in Communication Style it can be the most demanding of all the Traits to work with. Extensive discussion on the unique impact of a Communication Style mismatch and how to powerfully embrace your differences are covered in our Relationship Reports.
As a person with Structural Talking Style you take others literally. You use words according to their dictionary definitions and you choose your words carefully to mean exactly what you want to say. You also look for others to give you enough information so you can structure an understanding to exactly what’s being said to you. You will ask many questions to make sure you understand the meaning and intention of a communication. You definitely don't like loose ends or assumptions. The background or circumstances of a situation can be as important to you as the event itself.
Structural Talking Style relates only to how you use words to communicate. You may have a very emotional or sensitive nature but that is a different consideration from the way you use your words. If you are connecting with someone with a Figurative Talking style, there will be challenges ranging from misunderstanding to severe losses of energy, even when you’re well rested. If you are mismatched in Communication Style it can be the most demanding of all the Traits to work with. Extensive discussion on the unique impact of a Communication Style mismatch and how to powerfully embrace your differences are covered in our Relationship Reports.