Compatible Communication in Relationships is Crucial

Good communication is the foundation for long-term successful relationships. Verbal communication as reflected in the two MatchMatrix talking styles is an important tool for people to get to know each other, to feel a connection of friendship or intimacy and is highly desirable for working out problems and misunderstandings. The MatchMatrix communication Lifestyle Trait describes how a person uses words to express themselves. There are two styles of communication, Emotional talking style and Logical talking style.

People with the Emotional talking style use words to express their own feelings and what they feel from another person.  This talking style use a stream of consciousness to express and release emotional states.  Feelings guide this talking style.  While these people may be logical in their mental processes to do a job or to function in the world, their Emotional talking style will determine how they connect with another person in a close relationship.  Having the same style of communication in a relationship provides an important tool for working out personality differences. 

People with Logical talking style use words according to their dictionary definitions. They lay the words out like they are building a brick wall. They ask many questions to make sure they understand so there are no holes in the wall. They don't like loose ends or assumptions. The background or circumstances of a situation can be as important as the event itself to the logical talking style person. They are natural born problem solvers and often have good mechanical skills. The logical talking style relates only to how a person uses words to communicate. These people may have an emotional or sensitive nature but that is a different consideration from their talking style.  It is most desirable that people share the same style of communication in a relationship.

To review the predictable results and recommendations when people do not share the same style of communication, click here: "We have different Communication Styles."