MatchMatrix Compatibility Trait | Manipulator Modifier

Manipulator Modifier ("Tiger in the tank")

A Person with the Manipulator modifier exercises an attractive kind of control.  They are good at finessing other people to get what they want. They're very amiable and know how to cozy up to people.  This modifier works well for developing casual relationships and the other person feels good about being directed.   People with this Modifier get things done and are usually respected.

Women with the Manipulator modifier:

• Are power-houses. 
• Benefited from feminism.
• Usually have a drive towards success.
• Maintain control through their sexuality.
• Have no continuity in their emotional make up.
• Typically have success except in their relationships.
• Think like a man and compete well in a man's world.
• Are seductive and control by manipulation and finesse.
• Are good at what they do and have a lot of energy to do it.

Women with this modifier face a significant challenge.  They like having a strong partner who challenges them.  When the man finally yields, however, she may see that as a weakness and conclude that the relationship is no longer fun without a contest.  If neither person yields, they can end up head to head like two locomotives pushing each other up and down the same track.    Someone has to yield to make it work.  With the capability of these women, it makes sense for the guy to yield.  Without this understanding, one of them will most likely leave the relationship.  Women with this Modifier may cycle through many relationships looking for the right mate.  There is a good chance they may just tire of the process and stop looking altogether before reaching their goal.

This modifier can cause a surge of wild passion one night and then transform to ice the next night. They like a good fight, never forget a wrong, carry grudges and can write someone out of their life forever. 

Men with the Manipulator modifier:

• Typically have many creative ideas.  Their challenge is implementation.  They can be good entrepreneurs if they are able to put together a team or back-office to further develop and implement their ideas.  Without that support they typically have many false starts and their ideas fail to produce results.

• They can have a style that ranges from assertive to aggressive. They like high risks. They like poker, extreme sports, fast cars, venture capital and making deals. They are drawn to being policeman, fireman, stockbrokers, sports figures and Olympians. They work out, play hard, talk fast, drive fast and enjoy high-risk, quick return deals in the financial arena. 

• They often have a cool emotional nature.  They bring their work and problems home with them.  That behavior often conflicts with their ability to fulfill the emotional needs of their partner.  Work comes first and gets their emotional attention.  Someone with this Modifier often lacks the compassion necessary to give quality support to their partner.  These challenges are seldom apparent during the early days of a relationship.  They blossom after the commitments are made.  Sharing the MatchMatrix lifestyle traits will mitigate the effects of the Modifier.

In order to thrive in a relationship with people who have this Modifier it is important that you have at least the same Comunication Style and Sexual Response.

People with this modifier do best when they are in control.  However, while in control they must learn that kindness does not represent weakness.  At any point in time one person has to be more assertive and the other receptive if the couple is to grow together.   Otherwise, the relationship resembles rubbing two diamonds together-- they just scratch each other.  Compromise will be the key to gaining traction when the horsepower of the Manipulator Modifier is spinning its wheels.  In other words, if one of you is jumping up and down the other one must stand still.

When a woman with the Manipulator modifier finds a man with whom she is aligned for the MatrixMatrix traits, her need to control will be mitigated.  Without the need to draw on this modifier for her protection, she will be able to present her best qualities to find fulfilling happiness.

Men with this Modifier will also benefit from MatchMatrix.  Sharing the emotional alignments of this system provide the necessary tools to work out the challenges of this Modifier.   The stabilizing influence of the MatchMatrix emotional traits will free a man to present the best he has to offer to his partner.  

Even when two people with the Mainpulator modifier are aligned with the MatchMatrix Lifestyle Traits, they will have to work together to make compromises.  The alignments of the MatchMatrix provide the most predictable way for these people to have a good relationship through the awareness of their personality differences.

The "Controller" and "Manipulator" are powerful modifiers.   They can have a dramatic impact on a relationship even with the benefit of the MatchMatrix life style traits if the people are unaware of their presence. The inherent need to control in each of these modifiers can keep a person stuck unless they are willing to look, to learn and to grow.