Relationship Help Questions | Matchmaking Compatibility
How does MatchMatrix work?
MatchMatrix discovered a way to define four cornerstone emotional traits of a personality. The many combinations of the traits produce what we call the Matrix. The Matrix is accessed by each person's birth date. There are many ways to profile individual personalities, however, the unique value of MatchMatrix is its ability to map the dynamics of a relationship by comparing the alignment of two people for each of the four traits. In addition, there are five modifiers that provide a deeper look into the personality. A person can have none, one or a combination of the five modifiers.
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How do you know about me by just a birth date and without asking me a series of questions? Is this Astrology?
MatchMatrix is not astrology. The birth date tells us everything we need to know. Much like you would type a URL into your browser as an entry point to instantly access a website, MatchMatrix uses your birth date as the entry point to a very complex system of information. We have developed and tested this proprietary system with uncanny accuracy over the last 30 years.
Many people expect to answer lengthy questionnaires to receive useful insights. The important distinction and radical difference from profiling systems and lengthy subjective questionnaires is that MatchMatrix does not base its reports on who you believe yourself to be or who you want your partner to be.
The information we provide reflects the energetic patterns that were determined at your moment of birth. Those energetic patterns operate below the conscious mind and influence your relationships at a core level.
You are a human being. The conscious choices you make can change at any time but your human nature will never change. The same is true for your style of communication, the other three Lifestyle traits, Attractions and the five Modifiers presented in our MatchMatrix Relationship report. The MatchMatrix data does not change because it's fixed at the energetic level.
This is not to say that your personal history and desires are not important. They are. Yet many relationships fail for no apparent reason, even when the couple is determined to be a perfect match by other systems. That happens because the energetic patterns of those relationships were not considered.
We made very clear and precise distinctions between the Logical and Emotional communication styles. Read them closely. Those descriptions only relate to how people use words. That means you can have an Emotional talking style and be logical in the business world. And vice versa, the Logical talking style person can be very emotional. When you read the report and you will see how it distinguishes communication challenges when different talking styles conflict in a relationship. Remember, those differences source at the energetic level below the conscious mind.
The best way to have your own experience of the accuracy of the MatchMatrix information is to run Communication reports on friends, family and co-workers. Look at present and past intimate relationships. Notice the effect of different people on your energy levels, your ability to feel listened to, feelings of trust, shared senses of humor, your physical health, and whether or not you enjoy the same friends. Those are areas impacted by how your energetic pattern is aligned with another person.
In light of these comments, please give your Communication report another read and spend some time on our web site. There are many pages of support information and descriptions, links to great radio interviews on our media page, and some wonderful success stories.
You can start by clicking here.
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How can just a birthdate give reliable information?
The birth date is a key for accessing MatchMatrix. It was chosen to give universal application to our proprietary system. MatchMatrix is totally self-contained as an objective source of information. No subjective information is required from the user. The genius of this unique system is that it summarizes an extremely complex process of calculations under a single birth date.
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Why is my opposite parent's birth date important?
The old saying that men are attracted to women like their mother and women are attracted to men like their father is true. MatchMatrix is the only source that provides an objective way to accurately explain the dynamics of an attraction. The reliability of a person's attraction is determined by the emotional imprint from their opposite parent at the moment of birth. A person is attracted to someone with the same style of communication as their opposite parent. If the person and their opposite parent have the same style communication the attraction is "true" and the person can follow their heart in selecting a partner. If the person and their opposite parent have a different style of communication they will be attracted to someone with the same style of communication as their opposite parent, and their attraction is "false." The feelings will be very strong, but the relationship will have challenges that are discussed under the Conflicts section on this web site. A significant cause of failed relationships is following attractions that are "false." You can also find more information about true and false attraction under the Attractions section on this web site.
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What if I was not raised by or did not know my birth parent?
The emotional imprint from the opposite parent that determines the attractions is made at the moment of birth. The quality of the relationship the person has with that parent makes no difference. In fact, it doesn't matter if the person ever even knew their parent.
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I read the description of me and would challenge what the report says?
A person has an opportunity to gain a new perspective of themselves from the MatchMatrix report. However, the far greater value and the focus and unique application of MatchMatrix is in analyzing the dynamics of a relationship. No other source offers the depth of accuracy or understanding for the interaction between two people. We suggest that you use MatchMatrix to map a past relationship with a lover, spouse, x-spouse, sibling, family member or friend. Those interactions should confirm the value of the MatchMatrix information for the relationship and offer new insights into your individual profile.
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My MatchMatrix says that I have an Emotional talking style but I think I am very logical. How can this be accurate?
The descriptive terms of Emotional and Logical refer to a talking style or the purpose behind the speech. A person with the emotional talking style can be logical in the work they do. A good example is a software programmer. Regardless of the logic they use in their work, however, in a close relationship they will use words to convey their feelings. In the same way, a person with the Logical talking style can also be very emotional. In their talking style, however, they will use words according to their dictionary definition and lay them out like bricks in a wall.
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My MatchMatrix says that I have a Super Active Activity Level but I think I am more moderate. Can you explain the difference?
If you do not see yourself currently as being Super active think back about what you are like when you were younger. Aging, sickness, drugs and operations can slow you down. However, those will not affect a primary element of being super active which relates to your mind always being engaged. A Moderate active may think they are "going all the time" but when a project is through they take a mental and usually a physical break.
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I'm not sure I agree with the MatchMatrix report about my Sexual Type. Can you please help me better understand the differences?
The difference in sexual response relates to the emotional makeup of the two categories. The frequency of sex does not reflect the differences. The key is in the reserve of energy held exclusively for sex by the Physical person. That reserve of energy is only accessed for its full potential by a quality of intensity provided by a person with a matching sexual response. The Mental/Emotional person holds no reserve of energy. They have all their energy available to them all of the time. They need a high quality of emotional support that is difficult for the physical person to deliver.
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I think I am very conservative with my money, yet my MatchMatrix says I'm Non-Conservative. Can you explain please?
The challenges to the description of this trait come most often from the Non-conservative person. The description on the web site presents the innate personality profile of the two traits. A Non-conservative person may learn how to manage money in their family, in school or business and they will still have the trait as defined by MatchMatrix as an innate part of their personality.
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Please explain the importance of Attractions.
Attractions initiate and often control relationships. Prior to MatchMatrix there has never been a way to understand or make them predictable. Attractions have been referred to as the "Holy Grail" of dating because the ability to define them have been so elusive.
MatchMatrix has cracked the code for understanding the source and dynamics of attractions. Although we can now direct you to people to whom you will be attracted, there is a far more important question: Are your attractions a reliable way to select a mate for a long-term relationship or do they mislead you? Please go to the Attractions page for a more in depth discussion.
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My partner and I have a long distance relationship? How does the information from MatchMatrix apply?
Use MatchMatrix to map the relationship for a look at the compatibilities, challenges and the long-term potential of your future together.
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What do you mean by "energetic signature" and "vibrations"?
Every form of life has a unique vibration or frequency. It is well known that the different organs and systems of the human body vibrate at a unique frequency that can be balanced by the resonant frequency of tuning forks. Each of the 4 Lifestyle Traits and 5 Modifiers also has a vibration that is read by MatchMatrix. Mixing different styles of communication in a close relationship produces discordant vibrations that produce conflicts. Review the Conflicts section of this web site for greater insight. On the other hand, sharing the same traits produces coherent vibrations that support the relationship. You can appreciate the complexity and sophistication of MatchMatrix in which a birth date reflects the differences in vibration of the nine variables and then maps them for a relationship.
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I don't have any Modifiers in my profile and my partner has three. Is there something wrong with me, or him?
No there is nothing wrong with either of you. Each person has a profile of the 4 Lifestyle Traits that are used to map a relationship. The 5 Modifiers are random. A person can have none, one or a combination of the modifiers. The modifiers provide an in-depth look at other dimensions of a personality. Those are the characteristics often described as the "other person" who shows up in the relationship. The modifiers offer new areas for inquiry and lay the basis for compassion in the relationship.
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What are the obstacles if my attractions are false and I am in a relationship with someone whose attractions are true?
The first question that must be asked is "how are you aligned for the MatchMatrix Lifestyle Traits"? In their order of importance, if you have the same style of communication, activity level and sexual response you will have a good chance of experiencing a deeper quality of attractions that follow from being emotionally aligned.
Adjusting to the differences in attractions can be a major undertaking, especially if you are not aligned with the MatchMatrix lifestyle traits. The fewer alignments you share, the more complicated and challenging your relationship will be.
Consider the situation if your attractions are false. What you feel can change from day to day. One day you are attracted to your mate and find them appealing and desirous, the next day those feeling are gone. It is important to note is that if no one else was impacted by the shift in your feelings you would be OK either way. It would be just the way it is.
If your partner can "go with the flow" and not be put off guard by your shifting emotions then the relationship could be classified as "comfortable." No hassles. The relationship will be easy for both of you.
But, it is NOT what it appears, and this is why...
The challenge begins when the person who has true attractions does what people with true attractions love to do... express their feelings with certainty. Part of who they are is expressed in how they share how they feel with those they care about it. If your partner cares strongly for you, they will want to show it.
If you have false attractions and don't feel the same way, then your partner's feelings will not be reciprocated. They will feel the gap that could manifest as a feeling of being ignored or neglected. They may also be angry or jealous. Or the partner may turn inward and feel they are to blame for your lack of interest. They start to beat up on themselves and loose self-confidence and esteem.
If you are the one with false attractions you may or may not be aware of your partner's expressions.
If you are aware, but do not feel the same way, you may feel badly that you are not caring your weight in the relationship. You may feel like there is something missing that you need to figure out. You may start finding things wrong with your partner that never bothered you before to justify why you feel nothing at the time. The focus becomes what is wrong, and when you focus your attention to what is not working, things that you may have never noticed or had been concerned about now becomes glaring problems and irritations. The relationship will go down hill.
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How do I use MatchMatrix to meet the challenges of Misaligned Attractions?
Be aware of the issues discussed in this section as well as the page on this site that specifically discusses attractions, which will help you to better understand your mate and yourself.
If your attractions are false and your partner's are true, you can allow yourself to become excited by your partner's interest. Allow admiration, love and being cared for. Enjoy the expressions that your partner shares with you.
If your attractions are true, your partner's are false and you are aligned with your partner in the lifestyle traits, you should realize that it is unlikely that your partner's lack of interest has anything to do with you. Be yourself and don't hold back from expressing how you feel. Your attractions play a key role in holding the relationship together. Trust your true attractions, but most important rely on the great connection you have in the MatchMatrix lifestyle traits to support a long term relationship.
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